Honestly, I have to give you credit for your courage. You still go to places where you have no value. You keep speaking even when no one is listening. You keep talking even when people constantly interrupt you. You’re willing to stoop to any level just to please others. I mean, really—credit where it’s due—how do you not get tired? Trust me, I’ve grown tired of reading such DMs. I’m literally exhausted seeing people around me who’ve dropped their self-worth so low.

They don’t value themselves at all. Their whole life’s purpose seems to be making others happy, trying to satisfy everyone. You need to realize one thing: you can’t satisfy everyone. I’ve said it many times before, and I’ll say it again: You. Cannot. Make. Everyone. Happy.

Even if you give your life for someone, they’ll still find faults. So get this into your head—you can't satisfy people no matter what. Stop playing roles in other people’s lives. It’s a waste of time, energy, and self-respect.

Look, kindness is not a bad thing, but kindness without boundaries will destroy you. I’ve seen my own mother go through this—constantly pleasing others until she had nothing left for herself. This is a common story for many women—who give up their identity just to keep in-laws or partners happy.

So no, it’s not always kindness. Sometimes, it’s just fear. You’re scared to voice your needs. You’re scared to say, “I need this,” because you fear people won’t like you, that they’ll leave you.

Stop tolerating bad behavior. Learn to speak up for yourself.
That’s how you build a strong personality.

The main trait of strong people?
They don’t tolerate unfairness against themselves.
They speak up for their rights. They don’t sit silently in corners and cry. The difference between them and you? That’s it. Just that.

No one has ruined your life or personality as much as you have, through your inaction, your silence, your excessive kindness, and softness.

I’m not saying become cruel or brutal. But learn where to draw the line—what to tolerate and what not to.

Another thing: Stop telling everyone everything about yourself.
You trauma dump your past on others expecting empathy—but people don’t care. This is the truth.

In fact, most people will use that information against you later. Don’t argue with me—it happens. This is how the world works.

So control your tongue. Not everyone deserves full access to you. Learn detachment—from people, situations, this world. Respect detachment.
Stop emotionally investing in everyone.

No one should have full access to your thoughts.
Oversharing is weakness. Let that sink in.

Stop living for the thought: “I hope they like me.”
Start living with: “I hope I like them.”

If someone disrespects you, leave quietly without drama.
You don’t need to respond to everything. Silence and cutting off is the strongest response. Not everything deserves your reaction.

If someone disrespects you in public, stay calm.
Don’t stoop to their level. If it’s worth answering, do it. But don’t respond to nonsense.

Don’t give second chances to such people—those who do are the real fools. I said it, and I don’t care. I said what I said.

Romanticize being alone.
The needier you behave, the less respect people have for you.

The more clingy you are, the less value you hold in their eyes. Be so grounded in yourself that someone entering or exiting your life doesn’t shake your core.

Be content in your own company.
People chase others because they can’t stand being with themselves. Fix your relationship with yourself first.

Get comfortable with rejection.
Stop crying if someone leaves or rejects you.

You existed before they came, and you’ll exist after they leave. Their rejection doesn’t lessen your worth. Sometimes it’s their loss.

Be the villain in their story—it's okay.
People will always make themselves the victim in their mind and you the oppressor. Let them.

Stop trying to correct your version in their heads.

Mysterious people hold power.
Speak less, but speak meaningfully. I remember a girl from my college van—she talked nonstop. One day she was absent, and everyone said nasty things about her.

That’s reality. The more you talk, the more ammunition people have against you.

You’re not a president. You’re a person. People can use your shared info against you—especially jealous ones.

Be mindful of who you trust. Yes, have 1–2 good friends, but not everyone is your friend.

The most important thing for a strong personality?
Make your own decisions.
The more you rely on others, the more you invalidate your own thinking. Your opinion is worthy.

Let’s say you edited a picture for 2 hours, loved it, and wanted to post it. But then you ask a friend, “Should I post this?” If they say yes, you post it. If they say no, you don’t.

That means your entire decision is based on someone else. And this was just a small example. People make major life decisions—careers, marriages—based on others.

Why? Why let others decide?
You’re the one living that life. You’ll deal with the consequences.

Our society is full of people who love controlling others’ lives. Parents are chill sometimes, but relatives like uncles, aunts, etc. are obsessed with dictating your path.

But it’s your responsibility to take control.

Always ask yourself: “Am I being kind here, or just scared?”
If you’re scared they won’t like you for speaking your truth, speak it anyway. Yes, I’ve found my voice—and yes, I will use it.

Silence has never brought anyone anything—except pain.

Those who sit quietly only get labels: “So kind, so patient.” But that’s all. The rest of the world enjoys life. The “good” ones suffer.

So you decide: do you want to be good for others or strong for yourself?

Another thing: Stop complaining. I hate constant complainers. They radiate negativity.

If someone around you is always whining, distance yourself. Their misery will become yours. It’s okay to vent once or twice, but not always.

I used to offer solutions when friends complained. But the response would be:
"Yeah but…"
"We can’t do that…"
"It won’t work…"

Eventually, I realized—they don’t want help. They love the drama. So I backed off. They were draining me.

Now I’m at peace. I took a step back for my sanity.

And if you’re someone who constantly feels replaced or used, then I want to say just one thing:

Start living like someone who chooses themselves.
Be too bold to fit in.

People who choose themselves—always win.

Yes, you need to be a little selfish to survive in this world. Not in a cruel way—just enough to protect yourself.

And finally, if you feel people always interrupt you or ignore your words—speak with authority.

Speak with the belief that what you say matters. Because that belief is where it starts. Everything begins with your mindset.

Stop waiting for someone to choose you.
Be the one to choose yourself first.

Love yourself enough that whether someone enters or leaves your life, your identity stays intact. Your value remains unshaken.

A weak personality cannot build a strong life.

Stop blaming the world for treating you badly—it’s doing exactly what you’ve trained it to do.

Stand up for yourself.

That’s all for today.
Allah Hafiz.